“Q”: I’M IN A 2 YEAR RELATIONSHIP, MY FIANCÉ JUST PROPOSED TO ME A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO. I’M 19 & I’M NOT SURE HE’S THE ONE FOR ME, BUT I’M COMFORTABLE. HOW DO I JUMP OUT OF THIS BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE??!
“A”: Shhiiiiiiiiittttt I believe in it “never being too late,” but damn it, it’s pretty darn late!!!! JUST KIDDING!! Yes, it is late, but not too late! If you’re still breathing, you still have a chance to so what’s best for you!! I feel like being that youre 19, you probably don’t want to have into something you’ll regret or make that commitment when you’re unsure. Soooo how about this,
Take some time to be HONEST WITH YOURSELF!! Figure out what it is that you want, thennnnnnnnnnn TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. Be completely honest with him and let him know that you are afraid, unsure and comfortable. That you do care about him, but you want to be sure you’re making the right decision. Take some time to think about what it is you want and need from the relationship and tell him! That’s what being with someone is about. NOT HOLDING BACK. You’re freaking 19 annnndd the last thing you need to do is waste your time being with someone that doesn’t push you to be better and help you grow.
I’m 23 and honestly, I haven’t settled with someone because no man has challenged me to do so. Yes i’ve felt comfortable with someone, BUT I didn’t feel LIBERATED. and I expressed myself, but he ultimately took it the wrong way and wasn’t understanding of my feelings, sooooo our relationship had to end. BUT that may not be the case for you!!! Which is why I say give him a chance AFTER you’ve expressed yourself…..
KEEP IN MIND, DATING LIFE can either be REFRESHING and easy going or HARD!!! as in, it’s gonna be a change! and you’re either gonna be comfortable or extremely uncomfortable because you’re encountering men that do not meet your standards, are liars and cheaters….(not to scare you, just to prepare you….)
REMEMBER, you guys are just ENGAGED, NOT married!! Meaning you can use this engagement period to work on what needs to be worked on so you feel more confident about he decision you could possibly make!!! and i say possibly because, men have a subtle way of pressuring you into doing what they want you to do!!! BUT you ultimately hold the key to your life!!!! Hell you’re 19 annnnddd along with a full life ahead of you, there’s NO POINT in wasting your time and his!!!! Aside from that, KNOW that it is OK to not know what you want and CHOOSE YOURSELF!!!
So I say, stay engaged asss loongggg as you need to and only say “I DO” if and when you are ready…..
